Am I a failure?
Did I do everything to make my marriage work?
What am I lacking?
Does being a divorcee automatically put me in the failing path?
Do any of these questions seem all too familiar to you? Each one of these questions addresses one thing, your beliefs about being a divorcee.
It is already rare to hear the words ‘divorce’ and ‘success’ in one sentence, let alone thinking that a divorce can lead to success.
But I am here to tell you, it can....
How will this divorce affect my kids?
Allah will be upset with me because divorce is one of the most hated thing!
Did I really try my best? What else could I have done?
Was I “patient” enough?
These are common thoughts going through a woman’s mind during divorce. As a God conscious woman, you can often be overcome by guilt and self-doubt, especially when you’re exposed to criticism from others.
The turbulence in your soul comes from a lack of alignment of your...
Self-doubt is a very common thing to experience when going through a divorce.
Whether the decision for divorce is mutual or one sided, ‘Am I doing the right thing?’ is the question that usually plagues the mind.
I know. I’ve been there.
This self-doubt can lead us down many dark alleys of thoughts.
One such alley is the thought, ‘If Allah really wanted me to have this divorce then he would make it easy for me to go through.’
It’s this type of...
As moms we can all relate to wanting what’s best for our children. We want them to go to the best schools, have the best opportunities in life and to be high achievers. But sometimes our wanting ‘the best’, results in us having behaviors that make us question if we are really helping our children or harming them.
I once received a question from a concerned mom who believed she might be too competitive when it comes to her kids. Her question goes:
“My kids had a...
It’s a very common feeling when going through a divorce to want to isolate yourself because you don’t feel safe going out and about in your social circles. That’s usually because of all the questions that you get asked about the divorce, such as, ‘Was it mutual?’ or ‘Whose fault was it?’
It may feel as if everyone is playing the blame and shame game and trying to point the finger. But even for those around us who are more...
Whenever I go for walks I find myself being so in tuned with the weather each season brings. Although I live in sunny Los Angeles, I grew up experiencing the 4 seasons. It often reminds me that in our own lives, we too go through seasons. We all have our own internal winter, spring, summer and fall.
Each season signifies something important that is going on in the environment around us and in us. They signify some kind of growth and change and each season is beautiful in its own right....
You may have asked yourself this question, ‘How do I deal with the heaviness of divorce AND still patiently care for and raise my kids alone?’
Yes, dealing with divorce can, at times, feel like it is too much to bear, especially when it feels like you’re doing everything alone and holding all the pieces together for your children.
But what if you changed your perspective and looked at parenting post-divorce from another angle?
Let’s explore some ways we...
Miracle or luck: How living with faith gave me hope
Do you believe in miracles? Or do you think they are too good to be true? Perhaps you don’t feel worthy to be blessed with them or you might even think it is all luck?
A miracle according to the dictionary is defined as such:
I got out one Sunday afternoon by the coast in Los Angeles and as I sat there waiting for a friend, I was really soaking in the warmth as I’d had about an hour of sunshine left. There was a little playground connecting to the Starbucks and it was nice to have the kids all around me just laughing and playing. It was really infectious how present they are in the moment. Their minds not racing off into the unknowns of the future paralyzing them to live their truth.
A piece of good advice can transform your life.
I was newly separated and devastated from my impending divorce. It was during this time, on a path to healing, I started to focus on my two most important relationships; with Alllah and Myself.
It was 4 years ago, I first heard this advice and it prompted me to redefine my measures of success. I recently came across it again and wanted to share this personal life advice from the Angel Jibreel directly to our beloved prophet,...