Whose fault was it? Dealing with questions & comments about your divorce

Uncategorized Feb 18, 2019


It’s a very common feeling when going through a divorce to want to isolate yourself because you don’t feel safe going out and about in your social circles. That’s usually because of all the questions that you get asked about the divorce, such as, ‘Was it mutual?’ or ‘Whose fault was it?’


It may feel as if everyone is playing the blame and shame game and trying to point the finger. But even for those around us who are more well-intentioned, it can still feel upsetting when they say things like, ‘sorry for your loss’ or, ‘you poor thing’.


And, it’s understandable.  


Everyone feels a sense of sadness when a marriage ends, even if it wasn't a healthy one to begin with (it’s even worse when the marriage was abusive but no one knew).  


So, how do you respond?.


Let’s explore how to handle uncomfortable or hurtful comments and questions about your divorce....

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Every Season in Our Lives Has a Purpose

Uncategorized Jan 31, 2019


Whenever I go for walks I find myself being so in tuned with the weather each season brings. Although I live in sunny Los Angeles, I grew up experiencing the 4 seasons. It often reminds me that in our own lives, we too go through seasons. We all have our own internal winter, spring, summer and fall.

Each season signifies something important that is going on in the environment around us and in us. They signify some kind of growth and change and each season is beautiful in its own right.

Each season has a purpose

In autumn, you can appreciate the foliage and watch the trees shed and bear themselves. Then, the cleansing power of winter comes and brings with it it’s harshness which eventually turns into Spring. And finally, Spring the time of rebirth and hope transforms into summertime, where everything is lush and green.

The seasonal cycle is very similar to what happens in our own lives. We all have a time, like in fall, where we too have to shed aspects of ourselves and...

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Parenting Post-Divorce: Managing the Responsibility of Raising Children on Your Own

Uncategorized Jan 25, 2019


 You may have asked yourself this question, ‘How do I deal with the heaviness of divorce AND still patiently care for and raise my kids alone?’

Yes, dealing with divorce can, at times, feel like it is too much to bear, especially when it feels like you’re doing everything alone and holding all the pieces together for your children.

But what if you changed your perspective and looked at parenting post-divorce from another angle?

Let’s explore some ways we can change our thinking, shall we?


Your children don't belong to you

You don't own your children. There, I said it. Your children don't come from you but through you. They have been entrusted to you by their creator and ultimately, He is the one who provides the resources needed to nurture them.

Your only job is to do your best and make the intention to raise your children in a way that they can reach their full potential and be God-conscious, contributing members of society.


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Miracle or luck: How living with faith gave me hope

Uncategorized Jan 17, 2019


Miracle or luck: How living with faith gave me hope


Do you believe in miracles? Or do you think they are too good to be true? Perhaps you don’t feel worthy to be blessed with them or you might even think it is all luck?

 A miracle according to the dictionary is defined as such:

  1. an effect or extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers and is ascribed to a supernatural cause.
  2. such an effect or event manifesting or considered as a work of God.
  3. a wonder; marvel.

 If we slow down and pay attention, there are many miracles occurring in our lives DAILY  we just need to pay attention. Now I want to share one of my miracles with you. But first, I want you to answer a question:

 If you lost a diamond ring, do you believe you would find it again? And if you did, would you believe it was chance, luck, destiny or the power of God?


Turning to Allah in a state of panic

It was the beginning of Ramadan...

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Don’t Give Up on Yourself: 5 Ways to Look Beyond Your Negative Feelings

Uncategorized Jan 10, 2019


I got out one Sunday afternoon by the coast in Los Angeles and as I sat there waiting for a friend, I was really soaking in the warmth as I’d had about an hour of sunshine left. There was a little playground connecting to the Starbucks and it was nice to have the kids all around me just laughing and playing. It was really infectious how present they are in the moment. Their minds not racing off into the unknowns of the future paralyzing them to live their truth.  

Being around the joy of little people is inspiring, it's motivating and it makes you feel like everything's alright.

But it doesn’t always feel like this. Sometimes it feels like we have so many problems; like there's so much heaviness. Living in the present moment and light-heartedness of life can feel difficult.

You, my friend, may be struggling with lack of motivation, not feeling good enough, not having the confidence to go out and do the things you want to do. If you’re regularly...

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Personal Life Advice from Angel Jibreel

Uncategorized Jan 03, 2019


A piece of good advice can transform your life.

I was newly separated and devastated from my impending divorce. It was during this time, on a path to healing, I started to focus on my two most important relationships; with Alllah and Myself.

It was 4 years ago, I first heard this advice and it prompted me to redefine my measures of success. I recently came across it again and wanted to share this personal life advice from the Angel Jibreel directly to our beloved prophet, Muhammad pbuh.

1. Live as you will but know that one day you are going to die.

 2. Love whom you will but know that one day you will be separated from that person.

 3. Do as you will and know that one day you will be compensated and rewarded accordingly in the hereafter.

 4. Know that the nobility of a person comes from standing up in prayer at night, invoking his Lord.

 5. As for a person’s dignity and self-respect, it is in being independent of people, financially,...

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Parental Alienation: A Mother's Nightmare and How to Deal With It

Uncategorized Dec 10, 2018

It's the type of abuse that doesn't leave physical scars but emotional, lifelong ones. It obstructs the development of the self of the child, which affects how the child sees himself in all experiences through life.

I'm talking about Parental Alienation. It's the manipulation of a child’s mind and attachment bonds in a negative way and yes, it is very abusive.

Parental alienation is the process and result of psychological, manipulative control of a child for the purpose of restricting or restraining the child’s relationship with the other parent.


Common Behaviors of Alienating Parents:

  • Bad mouthing the other parent to the child in obvious and subtle ways
  • Limiting contact between the child and the other parent
  • Erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child
  • Creating the idea/impression that the other parent is dangerous, unfit, or unworthy of a relationship with their child
  • Forcing the child to choose between parents including the...
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Naked and Exposed

Uncategorized Oct 22, 2018

I have been doing something new lately. More and more frequently. Something I didn't think I would ever do. And when I consciously thought about it today I decided to take a selfie, document, and share for our benefit. As a reminder to myself first.


There was a time I would never have taken, much less posted this picture of me with a naked face.


I have been going out without wearing makeup! It has become less and less imperative for me to cover up, hide or change what I have been naturally gifted by our Creator.  Covering up the way I have been perfectly designed and crafted by God.


As far as I can remember I was very self-conscious about the way I looked, not necessarily body image but my face. I spent years buying concealers to cover up my dark circles and dark patches on my face. Praise God I didn’t obsess over the color of my skin, although I did wish I was lighter skin but did not obsess over it. Shadeism is for another blog post.


As far...

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My Shattered Heart and Dreams Led to my Awakening

Uncategorized Mar 14, 2018

I spent the first few months of my divorce process in shock and denial. I never thought I would end up in this situation even in my worst nightmares.

I remember in college, during a clinical rotation I was having a conversation with a fellow classmate about my upcoming wedding after graduation to a man who was in medical school. He said,  “Oh you’ll be divorced in 10 yrs or so.” I remember it so vividly because what he said stood out in my mind as absolutely NOT, Never! Not to me.  I thought, what does he know. He’s in his early 30’s, and in his second career. The point is, I was in such denial that I would ever experience divorce. I thought my relationship would never end. That it was, t”ill death do us part.”

What it taught me is to never rule anything out. It also was the first time I realized my worst fears become my greatest tests.

This was one of the greatest tests of my life.

Have you ever had a wake up...

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Overwhelm and Stress leading to Procrastination

Uncategorized Feb 13, 2018

Overwhelm, stress, worry…

Do you struggle with this?

Most of us do, In fact I’ve never heard of anyone not feeling these emotions on some level or another.


I used to really struggle with this to the point it would consume me and and I wasn't able to make decisions with clarity, felt confused and didn't know where to  begin. The stress would come out on the the people I love the most and then I would regret it later. 

This cycle of overwhelm and regret is no way to live.

Overwhelm and stress can come from thoughts in your conscious and subconscious mind.  Meaning unless you dig deep into your self talk, it may not be apparent at the surface level.

I recently worked with a mom who was overwhelmed and helped her gain clarity to take action on areas of her life where she was stuck. She was overwhelmed and worried about the transitions of starting a new job and managing expectations at work and at home with her family.

Her mind was consumed with...

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