Life’s tests, trials, and tribulations can harden you if you let it. 

As women, after facing something as difficult as divorce, we sometimes feel the need to toughen up, “be strong” and harden ourselves. We think we need to become like a man to compete with him or to survive on your own. We close ourselves off to avoid being vulnerable and open, afraid of getting hurt or taken advantage of.

But is reacting like this at the cost of denying what is hard-wired by...

Have you ever felt like you’ve lost yourself? Like you’re so focused on living up to the expectations everyone has for you that you’re just being pushed in every direction?

A lot of women come to that place in life where they feel ‘lost’ and it’s usually accompanied by feeling restless, unsatisfied and just not at peace. This is not a feeling that happens overnight, but is often a process that takes place over a long period of time.

But how does this...

When a woman gets married sometimes she can get so absorbed in her new married life that she forgets about her single friends. Her relationship with her friends will go through a transition until a new normal is established. 

In the case of divorce, this is also true, just in the reverse.

During this transition phase, there can be hurt and disappointment in the friendships. When there is no communication, stories are allowed to be built up in the minds, assumptions are made, unknown...

“What does she have that I don’t?”

“Why does she have it all?”

“Why can’t I have it too?”

“Why me?”

We’ve all been guilty of this - comparing ourselves to others. You may look at others, ie: your sister’s marriage, and suddenly some unpleasant feelings overcome you. 

Yes, even though you may be happy for her and say the token ‘Mashallah’, you may privately be questioning yourself or wondering what’s...

You have been experiencing something so life-altering and drastic that it can floor you and launch you into a painful grieving process. 

But then after your divorce, you’ll arrive here.

The final step of that process - a place of acceptance. 

A state of acceptance is what we all strive for and a common question I receive is, “But how do I know if I’ve accepted my divorce? How can I tell if I am healed?”

Though everyone is different, here are a few signs you...

Am I a failure?

Did I do everything to make my marriage work? 

What am I lacking? 

Does being a divorcee automatically put me in the failing path?

Do any of these questions seem all too familiar to you? Each one of these questions addresses one thing, your beliefs about being a divorcee. 

It is already rare to hear the words ‘divorce’ and ‘success’ in one sentence, let alone thinking that a divorce can lead to success.

But I am here to tell you, it can....

Self-doubt is a very common thing to experience when going through a divorce.

Whether the decision for divorce is mutual or one sided, ‘Am I doing the right thing?’ is the question that usually plagues the mind.

I know. I’ve been there.

This self-doubt can lead us down many dark alleys of thoughts.

One such alley is the thought, ‘If Allah really wanted me to have this divorce then he would make it easy for me to go through.’

It’s this type of...

As moms we can all relate to wanting what’s best for our children. We want them to go to the best schools, have the best opportunities in life and to be high achievers. But sometimes our wanting ‘the best’, results in us having behaviors that make us question if we are really helping our children or harming them.

I once received a question from a concerned mom who believed she might be too competitive when it comes to her kids. Her question goes:

“My kids had a...

It’s a very common feeling when going through a divorce to want to isolate yourself because you don’t feel safe going out and about in your social circles. That’s usually because of all the questions that you get asked about the divorce, such as, ‘Was it mutual?’ or ‘Whose fault was it?’

It may feel as if everyone is playing the blame and shame game and trying to point the finger. But even for those around us who are more...

Whenever I go for walks I find myself being so in tuned with the weather each season brings. Although I live in sunny Los Angeles, I grew up experiencing the 4 seasons. It often reminds me that in our own lives, we too go through seasons. We all have our own internal winter, spring, summer and fall.

Each season signifies something important that is going on in the environment around us and in us. They signify some kind of growth and change and each season is beautiful in its own right....